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Originally Posted by SilverOwl
I'm not whitewashing, I get anxious when there are arguments. All I really wanted to say was that I would find it uncomfortable if it was my husband but you know in families where there are no boys to carry on the line the man sometimes takes the wife's name or double barrels it so I guess its the same thing.
^^I'm glad there are no more arguments, maybe I can still come back and check Ayu's news, maybe. I have trouble talking to people, which is why I post very little and if there are arguments or negativity, I usually run off, maybe this is good for me LOL
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I got that you just wanted to say what emi and happyholic said and that's ok for me. If you wouldn't want your husband to adopt your last name that's alone your decision and even if I think it's somehow sexist I have no right to tell you to want something else. It was just the generalizing wording I didn't liked.
I don't know you as a person, so I wasn't able to now your personality and that your reaction to a strong negative comment about one of your comments makes you feel so uncomfortable. Even if I still think my comment was justified because it's important to speak up against sexism I'm sorry that it made you feel anxious!
And of course feel free to come back to ahs! One argument shouldn't stop you from being here. =)
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Originally Posted by SilverOwl
Yea, there is an age gap but not that big. I'm not sexist but old fashioned a little, maybe that's not a good thing. I can tell you have very strong views on sexism and that's a good thing, you made me rethink and I'm stubborn.
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Awww, that's sweet of you, thanks! ^.^
Edit: I have a feeling that this whole conversation will be deleted by the mods. I wanted to ask you guys not to delet it. Because I think it's a great example that people are able to argue and to be pissed but to get along in the end. I think both SilverOwl and me are feeling better now about this issue and will be able to be more nice to each other in the future - what wouldn't be possible without that argument. So, of course it's the decision of you guys if you delet it or not, but I will love you if you don't.
