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3. Words for Self and Others

Here is one of the most clear-cut differences between the way men and women speak.

* WORDS FOR SELF ("I" words)
o Words used by women only
+ あたし (atashi)
+ あたくし (atakushi)
o Words used by men only
+ おれ (ore)
+ ぼく (boku)
School boys use this almost exclusively. It's considered somewhat boyish and less vulgar than "ore," above.
+ わし (washi)
Uused mostly by older men. Some (very) old women and women in some dialects also use this.
o Words more commonly used by women
+ わたし (watashi)
This word is the standard in everyday polite speech, but in informal speech using this too often sounds feminine. Older men use this more often than younger ones: younger men tend to alternate between "boku" and "ore" in informal speech.
* WORDS FOR SECOND PERSON ("you" words)
o Words used by men only
This category consists mostly of very rough speech, which is considered inappropriate for women.
+ てめえ (temee)
Men usually say this when they're PO'd.
+ きさま (kisama)
This is pretty darn rough speech. This is also what police yell at bad guys. You don't want to be referred to like this by a cop.
o Words more commonly used by men
+ おまえ (omae)
This sounds pretty masculine, but women do sometimes say it. "Omee" is said in many dialects, including Kansai, and sounds even more masculine.
+ きみ (kimi)
Usually used by men to adress inferior people, like lower classmen, subordinates at work, and wives (hey, I didn't make the rules up!) Sometimes used by women, especially grade school teachers, where it seems like everyone is XX-kun or "kimi."
o Words more commonly used by women
+ あなた (anata)
This is common in polite language, but in informal speech ends up sounding kind of feminine. Possibly what puts it over the edge is the fact that women often use this to address their spouse/boyfriend.
+ あんた (anta)
Kind of an informal version of "anata." It can seem rude, which makes it a bit iffy as a feminine word. Also, "Anta" is the usual word used in a lot of dialects, but since even in those dialects that I know of where they use "anta," men also say "omae," this one seems to lean towards the feminine side.
* WORDS FOR THIRD PERSON ("he/she/it")
o words used more often by men
+ あいつ (aitsu)
This is the only word that comes to mind for this category, along with こいつ (koitsu) and そいつ (soitsu). These words are considered vulgar, especially when used to refer to people: vulgarity is usually reserved for men in Japan.