Rihanna Left With "Horrific" Injuries

[tanachu]

Originally Posted by Cyria

Or 3. She's dating an abusive man who'd only need a slight excuse to get violent and then proceed, along with his friends, to blame her for the fact that she ended up in a hospital.

"She must have deserved it" is something I've been seeing a lot of, and quite honestly I find that shocking. It is not OK to put your partner, friend or family member in a hospital. It is not alright for T.I. to just talk about how Chris is a little concerned and "This too shall pass." If your friend puts his girlfriend in a hospital, your main concern shouldn't be to tell the press that he's cool, it's just a mistake - it's a crime and your friend needs tough love so he seeks help for his violent tendencies! Or Terence Howard talking about how it's just life, Chris loves her - love means ending up in the hospital and having your life threatened? Life means shrugging off physical abuse as if it's nothing and staying with the abuser? Those comments make me sick; staying with the abuser can cause the partner's death. That isn't love, and I'm very sad to see how many people are talking about how they themselves would be alright with beating a partner if there was something to blame it on (clinginess and so on).

When Jennifer Hudson's family was murdered, plenty of people blamed her sister for not leaving that man sooner. Now that Chris Brown has allegedly caused Rihanna horrific injuries and threatened to kill her, people are talking about how she must have provoked him, she was being too clingy, spreading rumours about herpes to damage her character - as if that somehow made it alright to try to kill someone. Can't win if you leave, can't win if you stay. The first question, what did the victim to? How about, what's wrong with the person who can't handle disagreements with a supposed loved one without causing physical injury?

If any good comes out of this, it's that people might start talking about dating violence. You aren't obliged to blame yourself for having an abusive partner, and your everyday mistakes or expressions of a differing opinion don't compel that partner to beat you. There are manipulative jerks out there who will blame the victim for they're doing. By joining in that blaming, people are allowing them to continue their abuse.

Totally agreed.

Originally Posted by part of me

they're making it out to be bigger than it is i think, i don't really feel bad for her because she's probably not completely innocent.but it's just a bad situation

Uh, yeah... she kind of got her face bashed in?

And how is that an excuse to just lash out at someone like that? I mainly quote what Cyria said; dissagreements shouldn't lead to this, even if they were yelling at each other.. obviously he did more than just slap her/punch her once.